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I have blogged about this before and I’m doing it again… Scandal, the best television show we have had in a very long time. Scandal is addictive and a conversation starter without a doubt, try it and you will see. Scandal is real life stuff, romance, drama, lies and love. Scandalmania is our connection to that stuff.
How does one show captivate so many people and draws us into a world where we think we can handle anything and fix everything. A show that has a majority of us believing we are “GLADIATORS”. Scandal is on top in a big way. The relationship with fans is remarkable. Scandal’s viewing audience is massive and growing and social media is its playground.
I think what has us all intrigued is that Scandal touches on reality; there are secrets, the White House and its dirty laundry, we have the affairs of the heart. We witness the marital problems and the wife who knows the “other woman”, but doesn’t know how to fix the problem (wifey is not a Gladiator) or how to do a payback for the humiliation of it all.
Now, the huge mystery for me is who are the infamous gladiators? How did Olivia Pope meet them and how dark is each of their past?
Now let’s talk about Olivia Pope, played by Kerry Washington, she is phenomenal. She is strong and weak. Olivia gets the job done and encourages her team when they are down, which always seems to be at the same time she needs a little encouragement of her own. It‘s her weakness that keeps us coming back each week. Olivia Pope is like some of us, we want what we want when we want it, even though it is not good for us. We try so hard to let it go, but find ourselves back in all over again.
We love Olivia and we know that what she is doing is sinfully wrong, but she is in love with the President of the United States, how can we not feel her agony? When Olivia is happy, we are happy and when she is sad we are sad as well, but we cannot stay sad for too long because we are gladiators. Right?
Scandal is the only outcome when a women like Olivia Pope is in a relationship with the most powerful man in the world and he is not available and the people who work for her have baggage from the past and will do any unlawful thing she needs them to do, just tell them when, where, and how to do it. Yes, that’s how it’s done.
I love you and you wait for him to say the words “I love you too”, but you get silence or a change in conversation. That’s a big red flag that he doesn’t love you, not right now and maybe never. The question is do you accept the relationship as is or move on?
Well, before you move on ask the question how did the relationship start out? Were you friends first or was it sexual fireworks to the 10th degree? The answer could determine where the relationship might be headed.
If you want him to love you, do not pressure him and do not be the first to say I love you. Men “like” and women “love”, and women fall fast and hard when they think they are in love. Slow down ladies, put the brakes on your emotions and enjoy the ride, and eventually he might just coast right into your arms and whisper I love you, but more importantly be in love with you.
Many of us have experienced them. The moment when you realize that you are actually throwing a temper tantrum. The moment you realize that everyone must have forgotten that the world revolves around you. The moment you realize that you aren’t actually a princess and everyone around you are your subjects. That’s right ladies, that moment is called a “DIVA Moment”.
We can’t do anything without God and everything is possible with God. I pray that you will allow God to lead and guide you in all that you do and every area of your life. If you want to surrender your life to God and do not know where to begin. A Call To Holy Living ebook is a start.
It’s all in the name. Some names are so cool you just want to say them. The names just roll off your tongue; they are hot, and perfect in print. I picked my top 20 favorite celebrity names and one model made the list. Which name made number one on my list? The winners are….
20. Vince Vaughn
19. Christian Bale
18. Johnny Depp
17. Forest Whitaker
16. Jamie Foxx
15. Sidney Poitier
14. Colin Farrell
13. Denzel Washington
12. Shia LaBeouf
11. Matthew McConaughey
10. Martin Scorsese
9. Robert DeNiro
8. Al Pacino
7. Penelope Cruz
6. Halle Berry
5. Charlize Theron
4. Anjelina Jolie
3. Alessandra Ambrosio
2. Scarlett Johansson
1. Leonardo DiCaprio
I know you mentioned gangs were prevalent on the West Coast but the tremendous amount of gang members, gang related deaths, and gang affiliated young men on the East Coast is what sparked my campaign. The topic of gangs in hip-hop is even more prevalent since there are several influential rappers who publicly and proudly claim to be members of gangs. Lil Wayne, Snoop Dogg, and Chief Kief are a few examples.
The issue I have with these artists is the fact that they are glorifying and condoning a lifestyle that they themselves don’t really live. They promote the gangs along with perpetuating violent acts to young men. Since a huge majority of their fan base are young black men living in urban communities that is their audience. These young men look up to, admire, and want to be like the lyrics of these rappers songs. The Department of Justice estimates that there are almost 1 million gang members in America. 40% of those gang members are under the age of 18! To make matters worse, 90% of African American juvenile boys in correctional facilities are gang affiliated. Boys, as young as 12 years old, are joining gangs. In 2012 alone, approximately 20,000 people were killed due to gang violence.
I want to point out to every young African American man in this country who is apart of a gang or may be thinking of joining one; the government has them under close surveillance. They even made special gang units across the country to specifically target them. They don’t want to save these young men’s lives, they want them to kill each other or better yet, do something that will allow them to be sent to prison, where the state makes money off of each incarcerated individual. I was raised in Nashville Tn in Edgehill Housing Projects so I understand the struggles of the streets from 1st hand experience. This cause is important to me because we are loosing too many African American men to death and incarceration due to gang violence.
7 years ago, my life changed forever. My little brother decided to join the crips gang at the age of 14. Apparently he was fearless because in no time he was the leader of their youth division. (Gangs have youth divisions these days. Go figure!) They called themselves the Young Solider Boys and they were robbers. At the age of 16 my brother was tried as an adult, convicted of 2 felony armed robberies, and sent to prison. Three of his “gang brothers” testified against him to get lesser sentences. All 3 of them were 18-20 years old and one of these men was my brothers’ cousin. My brother spent ages 16-21 in a maximum-security prison due to his involvement in a gang.
You see, what a lot of our youth are not realizing is the power they have. My brother has always been a leader. Many young men who join gangs are leaders. That alone threatens our government. I want to encourage those young men to put their leadership skills to better use. The fact is, we need those young men to grow into prominent members of our society, leading our households, communities, and ultimately, our country. I want them to understand that they are no use to those of us who need them if they are dead or in jail.
My brother came home almost 1 year ago and his story is truly inspiring. He never got to go to prom. He never got to walk across the stage at his high school graduation. He missed the last few years of our grandfathers’ life. He missed the birth of 2 of his nieces. He missed so much. It doesn’t stop there because this traumatic experience hugely affected my family. We’re still recovering. The most painful thing about our experience is when my brother would go up for parole. Three times we put together a packet filled with letters of recommendation form his teachers, members of your family, church members, community leaders, local business owners, and friends of our family. Three times my family and I flew into town and drove hours to Tiptonville Tn to attend his parole hearings. Three times my little brother passed different rehabilitation programs, received recommendations from his teachers in prison, and even received his GED. Three times the parole board denied my brothers request for parole.
Imagine being sent to a maximum-security prison at the age of 16, spending 23 hours a day in solitary confinement, and on your 18th birthday being released into the general population. It’s real in these streets and it’s nothing like a Lil Wayne or Snoop Dogg’s rap lyrics.
A freethinking African American man is considered a threat in this country so why do our youth continue to give the government rope to hang them with?
I want to create a dialogue about an issue that’s being ignored and swept under the rug. When we ignore how much gangs are hurting our people and communities we are telling the youth that we don’t care about them or their futures. Due to my experience and the platform God has given me I believe it is my responsibility to bring awareness to this issue and encourage our youth to end all gang violence and activity. We all owe it to ourselves, those who have come before us, and those who will come after us to rehabilitate our urban communities all across America. I want our youth to choose life.
To help promote this public service announcement I recently had a gang unity photo shoot with Hollywood Celeb Photographer Kem West. I’ve put together a 3-minute video artistically filled with facts and a plea to our youth to end gang activity and violence.